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Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  .This section is about sexual ideals.  ---  1/24/2006


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  (1) Ideal like: being best friends with someone.  (2) Ideal lust: Pure hunger.  Pure attraction.  Lose mind and self in pleasure.  Whole body becomes one big orgasm.  Multiple orgasm.  (3) Ideal partner, ideal me, and ideal relationship.  (4) Ideal environment.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  (1) My ideal woman: healthy, hip, smart, beautiful, horny.  Puts out a lot, and we have great, mind blowing sex.  She has a great mind: intelligence, humor, emotional perception.  Horny yet faithful, wild and intelligent.  I.e. a hip, hot, beautiful, brainy babe.  (2) Ideal woman of my imagination.  Thinks like me, shares my interests.  Wants me intensely, and only me.  Rich as sin.  Can handle a poor guy.  Is not an asshole, is hip.  Artist/dead head, athletic jock, intellectual/worker.  She has got to be all three.  Noble prole.  Hip, cool, radical, arty.  Intelligent, smart, wise.  Young, horny, puts out, sane, poor, noble.  Good looking, funny.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  Best relationship: two people obsessed with each others real selves.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  Best sex will be found between two young, beautiful, idealistic, creative, intelligent, wild, philosophers.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  Best sex: best partner, in best environment, plus best you.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  Great sex: most healthy and most enjoyable.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  Healthy sex grows the mind.  Pathological sex destroys the mind.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  Ideal individual and relationship: honest, rational, and brave.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  Ideal mate: just like you except opposite sex.  Ideal relationship: total communication and understanding.  Mind blowing sex, inspire each other, learn from each other, drive each other.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  Ideal physical sex relationship, and ideal psychological sex relationship.  Ideal sex partner, and ideal you.  How close can we come to it?  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  Ideal relationship: respect, trust, honest, open, fair, good communication, psychological attraction, physical attraction, equals as partners, healthy, caring, sharing.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  Ideal relationship.  (1) Two fine minds.  Two different minds.  Not identical.  Doing the mind meld, the mind merge, the mental synchronization.  (2) Two creative minds, each one constantly generating new, good ideas.  Never ending.  (3) Synergy.  The whole is greater than the parts.  ---  8/31/2005


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  Ideal relationship.  (1) Undying, enduring loyalty.  (2) Dynamic, not static.  Growing together not apart.  ---  4/20/2001


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  Ideal sex (best and worst) vs. actual sex (best and worst).  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  Ideal.  Great sex = great physically (healthy, sensitive) + great mentally (head in good spot, no pathology).  ---  10/30/1997


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  Ideal.  The healthy, all american, ideal couple.  They are both psychologically, physically, and financially healthy.  They love each other, the true other and not a fantasy image of the other, with a healthy love and not a twisted love.  He is a well adjusted male, not a wimp and not a pig.  She is a well adjusted female, not a nag or bitch or doormat.  They are well adjusted sexually and have good sex but that is not all they live for.  They are hip, not prudes.  They keep it going for a long, happy, healthy, productive life.  ---  12/30/1996


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  In an ideal world (1) You could be a guy when you wanted, and you could be a girl when you wanted.  Heterosexual or homosexual.  (2) Or there would be just one sex.  Or there would be a million sexes.  (3) But in this world: you are a guy or a girl.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  Intelligence, personality, life, fight, individuality, and vision, attract me more than anything.  ---  04/30/1993


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  Like/lust.  What it could be: ideals, illusions, art, vs. what it is: in this world, in your life.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  My muse, my ideal woman, my Beatrice.  I've never seen her, let alone talked, gone out, or fu*ked her.  I've never even caught a glimpse of her in the media, or read about her.  ---  06/06/1994


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  Of course the ultimate woman will never arrive, and if she did I would immediately start looking for better.  I am lifting weights for my Beatrice (Dante's ideal woman).  Dante had that much right.  I live for my perfect, ideal woman.  The vision changes, and hopefully progresses, as I build on and refine the old versions.  They don't make girls that hip, smart, sexy, and horny, or do they?  ---  08/30/1993


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  Our idea of the perfect partner, our idea of perfect love.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  Perfect relationship: he perfect, she perfect.  They perfect together, perfect match, perfect fit.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  Perfect relationship.  (1) The two partners are totally unified as one.  (2) They are the only ones that exist.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  Relationships, how good can they get?  Very close in values, emotion responses, goals, thought structure, thought processes.  Understand and agree with each other.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  Sex, how good can it get?  Both really horny at same time for same type of sex.  Intense, enduring physical pleasure.  Simultaneous orgasm.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  The best sex is idealistic.  Sex should be idealistic.  ---  09/27/1993


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  The big hope of youth for love is to find someone (1) Who understands you, (2) Who agrees with you, and (3) Who is your equal or better.  ---  12/30/1995


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  The woman you deserve, or can reasonably expect vs. the woman you want vs. the woman you get.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  Three ideals: imaginable, in this world, and in my life.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  Three traits of great sex.  (1) Each person conquers the other.  (2) Each person gives in and surrenders to the other.  (3) Each person remains independent of the other.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  Ultimate woman.  Hot body and face.  Athletic and smart.  Brave and free.  Warrior personality and character (ala Zena?).  And I am slightly stronger than her, and more excellent behaving and mind.  We are like superheroes.  ---  04/01/1994


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  What it takes to have a great romance.  Two people, intelligent, imaginative, communicative (must be shared, not isolated in two heads), mature, experienced, un-naive; sensitive; horny and romantic both; noble (not petty, trivial, or mundane); mentally and physically healthy; brave (not afraid to defy convention); creative; spunky; alive.  Plus they have to meet (ha!).  Plus they have to fall for each other (ha!).  The probability of all this happening is 1 in 10,000 couples?  Which means 20,000 people.  Examples of great romances.  (1) In art.  Bogey and Bacall.  Wuthering heights.  (2) In reality.  Sid and Nancy.  Captain and Tenile.  Bogey and Bacall.  ---  09/10/1994


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  What you think you got vs. you can attract, in any category.  (1) Physical: face and body.  (2) Psychology: maturity, intelligence, cool, emotional stability.  (3) Financial: money and stuff.  (4) Over and underestimating above three.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, ideal.  ---  You always love the finest overall woman that you have ever met.  For example, "B" was the best I have met so far overall, in terms of looks, brains, and personality.  ---  04/30/1993




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