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Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  .This section is about techniques for meeting that special someone in your lifetime.  ---  1/24/2006


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  (1) Get and keep them in the mood by total communication complex.  Words, voice (pitch, timbre, volume).  Gesture, posture, movement, body shape and tone.  Clothes, personal space, touch, touches, gifts.  (2) It should say: I like you, you should like me.  You can trust me, I trust you (even if you don't).  I think your sexy, desirable, I want and need you.  I'm paying attention to you.  I'm good in bed, in public, at job, at home.  I'm funny, cool, sexy.  I'm not a jerk, wimp, or bastard.  (3) Factors: intensity and frequency a message is unconsciously or consciously sent or perceived.  (4) Scooping - it is all public relations, rhetoric, propaganda, advertising.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  A writer needs the experiential knowledge of like/lust.  Tell her you are a writer and need sex.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  All love affairs start with a small act of bravery.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Always be looking for something better.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Approaches.  Different women require different approaches.  Some want it slow or fast.  Some want pace controlled by them or you.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Approaches.  Each woman has a distinct personality, value system, and needs.  Each woman has a best approach.  Types of approaches: Mr. stable, Mr. freewheeling, Mr. intellectual, Mr. hardbody, Mr. sensitive, Mr. big ape, Mr. romantic.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  As much as I like warming up my car on winter mornings, that's how much I like getting women in the mood.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Avoid pathological chiks like the plague.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Be careful in love, go slow.  It is easy to burn yourself (flip your own head) or be burned by someone.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Best and worst moves for women in general, and for specific women.  One move can blow it.  Esp. for hyper-critical, un-understanding women.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Body language.  The double take, the smile, the stare, the touch, the look up and down, the shift, the turn, the lean, the move in closer, the open up arms and/or legs.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Communication: complete, direct, clear, important.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Do best you can, with all you got, all the time.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Don't be a jerk (abuser).  Don't be a fool (abused).  Flirting is allowed.  Flirting keeps you in social conversation practice.  Flirting helps you network.  ---  07/30/1996


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Don't change your core self to please her.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Don't get jerked around, don't get abused.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Don't let fear of getting hurt prevent you from looking.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Don't pass up any chances.  And go out and create more chances.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Dying of thirst by the well.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Each person has a most effective natural style, based on physical body (and voice), and personality.  Chicks are attracted to your natural style.  Tweak, enhance, and emphasize your natural style with haircut, clothes, etc.  ---  4/7/1998


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Every woman I meet I learn more about myself, women, people, life, and that specific woman.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Every woman is unique, every situation is unique.  Every chance is unique: don't blow it, give it all you got.  You never know who you will meet.  You never know if the one you meet is the love of your life.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Figure her out quick.  Figure out who she is and not and why.  Figure out what's going to work for her and not and why.  Figure out what she's looking for and not and why.  Get laid.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Find a woman as attracted to you as you are to her.  All else is garbage.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Finding a girl is like finding a job.  It can take six months to a year, and at least 100 "interviews" (hitting on women).  Dress nice and act friendly.  ---  04/10/1997


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Finding any woman, let alone the best woman for like/lust, takes considerable resources (time, money, energy, etc.).  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Finding your muse vs. finding your house frau.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Flirting.  (1) Scope crowd, scope her, size her up.  (2) Keep cool, calm, relaxed, confident.  (3) Eye contact, smile, friendly touch, body contact.  (4) Hang in there, be driven, chat her up, talk about her.  (5) Show your best side first, not worst side.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Get any girl, for any period of time, for any relationship (friend, fu*k buddy, like/luster).  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Get everything settled between you every time.  So you won't feel unsettled.  So you can do your work.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Get goals, and protect yourself.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Get laid early and often.  Date a lot of different women.  ---  7/4/2002


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  How much are you willing to compromise in order to get how much?  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  How much b.s. to take.  None.  Ever.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  If they say they like you, or show they like you, don't spurn them.  Even if you don't like them, don't spurn them.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  It is like the lotto, one in a million.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Lines in any situation, with any woman.  (1) Opening lines: best, worst.  (2) Types of lines: compliment, inquire, reveal, proposition.  Truth, lies.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Madison Avenue marketing plan pickup line: Ladies, when was the last time you had a really good orgasm?  ---  9/4/2000


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Make all the right moves, keep the good vibrations flowing.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Never give away your soul, heart, will, power, or dignity, so you don't have to do something nasty to get it back.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Never give your soul away totally, keep your self respect.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Opportunities: create more opportunities, maximize each opportunity.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Physical: body, face, clothes.  Psychological: psych up, psych in.  Social: lines, moves.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Picking up a woman is like sales, public relations image, and a show biz performance.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Picking up women.  The six reciprocal steps of flirting.  You look, and they look back.  You smile, and they smile back.  You wave, and they wave back.  You talk, and they talk back.  You touch, and they touch back.  You fu*k, and they fu*k back.  ---  12/26/1997


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Preparation.  You can meet your dream girl, the love of your life, anytime anywhere.  Be prepared mentally and physically.  ---  12/01/1993


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Reject no available woman, for any possible action, for any reason.  Pursue any available woman, for any gain, for any reason.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Scooping, courting: (1) Everyone has values (arranged in hierarchies) and standards (for each value), and goals (derived from above two).  How do above three develop (biological, psychological, social, and situation factors).  How close two peoples value systems are.  (2) When two people meet they begin forming views of who the other person is and how the other person fits into their own value/standard/goal system.  If they like you as you are, good.  If you can't make them like you without lying significantly to them, or without lying significantly to yourself, or without changing yourself significantly, or without compromising your value system significantly, then you are sunk.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Scooping, pairing, courting.  (1) Person A perception of whether person B is above or below them.  What person A values as above or below.  (2) Person B perception of whether person A is above or below them.  What person B values as above or below.  (3) The range person A and person B will accept (how much above or below).  They usually take anything above, and nothing below.  (4) What the actual situation is.  What really is above or below.  What each individual really is in relationship to other.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Scooping: move slow, talk slow, talk low.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Scope out the joint: analyze and prioritize.  Hit on them: use wit, use warmth, be positive.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Shotgun approach.  Hit on more than one girl at a time.  It is healthy, and necessary in order to beat the low odds.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Some times it just falls in your lap.  Some times it takes hard work.  Be prepared at any moment, look good, go for it attitude, be in scooping practice.  Get out there and mix it up.  Study like/lust, yourself, and your partner carefully.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Talk, lines.  Pick up line for waitress.  "How about a date?  Well then, how about an apricot?"  (or "I mean, do you have any dates?").  ---  04/24/1997


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Talk.  Conversation: light, funny, sexually aggressive.  Show your sensitivity, dazzle them with your intelligence.  Inquisitive, propositioning.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Talk.  Lines.  My favorite pick up line: Now or never, you and me, yes or no?  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Talk.  Trying out lines is like comedy.  Funny vs. serious.  Nervous vs. calm.  Braggart vs. modest.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Talk.  What did I have when I was drunk that let me score so much?  A smile?  Relaxed?  Coming on strong?  They were drunk too?  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Talk.  What to tell her vs. what not to tell her.  What to ask her vs. what not to ask her.  Anything?  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  The mood, the vibe.  (1) Be aware of the mood, the vibe.  (2) Creating and sustaining the mood, the vibe.  (3) Not destroying the mood, the vibe.  (4) Total mood equals: her mood (in general, to you in general, and to you in the specific situation), plus your mood (in general, to her in general, to her in the specific situation).  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  The personal ads are like a lottery.  That caller's message and phone number gives you the high of (1) Knowing someone is interested in you, or likes you.  (2) They may be the perfect person for you.  (3) Both chances are a million to one that your ticket is a winner.  It is a gamblers high.  The high of expectation.  ---  06/17/1994


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  There's a line where people will say concerning the other either "Yes, you're ok.", or "No, stay away."  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Think out every move in advance, practice the moves, study the moves, and stay in practice.  Make it look effortless and thoughtlessly spontaneous, be seamless, consistent, and keep your story straight.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Three cases.  (1) Person A likes person B, and B likes A.  (2) A likes B, and B dislikes A.  (3) A dislikes B, and B dislikes A.  (4) How, how much, and why?  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Treat women as people, friends, and sex partners.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Treat women like anyone.  Take no abuse, get instant complete catharsis from source.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Two types of seduction, and two types of communication: soft-sell and hard-sell.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Type and level or league.  (1) Not my type. Based on physical attracttion or repulsion to any social group (liberal vs. conservative etc.).  (2) Not my level.  Based on whether above or below me (for whatever reason).  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Various approaches guys take to attract the opposite sex.  (1) Sensitive, intelligent, artistic, fragile guy vs. (2) Strong, big, healthy, energetic, lug.  (3) Rebel, decadent vs. dependable, straight laced, sober.  (4) Pick the type that you fit into best.  Then play up all the traits of that type (talk, haircut, clothes, etc.).  Play each role to the hilt.  Send clear communication signals to the girl of the type you are.  Because each girl has a type they go for, an ideal picture in their mind that they fall for.  Go after the girls most likely to fall for your type.  ---  12/30/1995


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  Ways to get sex: force, demand, plead, seduce (seduce works best).  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  What to talk about.  Brag about your accomplishments.  Compliment her and show her attention.  Talk about sex - in general, and for you and her.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  When to give in, get swept away, zombie eyed, hypnotized vs. when to stay sharp, snake eyed, conscious.  ---  12/30/1992


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  With women, a soft, slow, low voice and smiles works best, not high fast loud frowns.  ---  10/25/1993


Sociology, sexuality, techs.  ---  You only have time for a few hits on women.  Only a few pan out to any degree.  Make each attempt a good one.  Give it your all, make it perfect.  It is a memory you'll replay forever.  Look them in the eye, use your voice, and body.  Be expressive, and receptive.  Pick up their vibes, push on ahead, scoop them.  ---  12/30/1992




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